As an instructor i say that phrase A LOT when I teach our 40RTY boot-camp programme or when i’m working 1 to 1 with clients. People think it’s just something i say to try and get people to push through the exercise or to help them get through the session and i guess at some level it is but in truth i honestly believe it is also much more than that.
When it comes to exercise and weight loss (and many other areas of life) i can’t tell you how much i believe that an individual has the power to change themselves starting by simply doing one thing – telling themselves they can do it. I mean that not in a pseudo motivational kinda way – i simple mean that the biggest ‘light-bulb’ moment i had was when i came to the conclusion that “i can do it”.
For as many years as i can remember i had told myself that i was fat and rubbish at any kind of sport / activity. Some of that was from people teasing etc and i was bullied for it at school but the BIG truth was I chose to believe it. I let those unhelpful thoughts control my whole life for years which when you think about how misleading thoughts are is less than ideal! I’m not psychologist so will let those qualified explain what i mean about identifying and challenging unhelpful thoughts here – have a read – it can really help!
My light bulb moment came when i realised that by constantly believing myself to be a useless case i was keeping myself from making a change – i won’t be dramatic and say ‘from that day on‘ etc but i did pretty much start making changes very soon after coming to the conclusion that i could do it – i decided that if it was my problem then i had the power to change and improve the situation. So – i did – but how?
I’m known as being blunt – too direct perhaps with people asking for help with weight loss / fitness but let me really spell out what i mean and why. The following is VERY blunt, sit down and don’t react – you’ve been warned.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CURRENT SITUATION – IF YOU ARE OVERWEIGHT IT IS BECAUSE AT SOME LEVEL YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU SHOULD BE SO YOU CONTINUE TO ASSIST THAT BY YOUR LIFESTYLE CHOICES. IF YOU ARE NOT VERY FIT IT IS BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE TO BE THAT WAY – NOBODY IS GOING TO CHANGE YOU EXCEPT YOU AND UNTIL THAT THOUGHT BECOMES CLEAR IN YOUR HEAD YOU WILL TRY AND FAIL OVER AND OVER JUST AS I DID.
Harsh huh? Yes – definitely but that was the talking to i gave myself and subsequently to others i have had the great pleasure of working with that went on to make very positive and life changing adjustments to their thinking – that in turn led them to some great and very inspiring changes. Rather than being cruel i honestly think this way of thinking is incredibly helpful! When you realise that you and you alone have the power to make changes it liberates you from all the nonsense reasons you have put in front of you as to why you can’t do it – any of these ring a bell?
- No time
- Too old
- Too fat
- Don’t like exercise
- Its my genes
- Its not my fault – i’m just big
- Can’t afford it
- Too busy
- Too late for me
- I’m rubbish
- Can’t get motivated
Etc etc etc, blah blah blah – i’ve heard the above and many (many!) more over the years i’ve been working with people and a fair few of those were my own thoughts. By literally slapping yourself in the face and telling yourself that they are all utter nonsense you allow the mist to clear and you can begin your journey! Dramatic eh? Mist lifting – seeing the opportunities laid out in front of you? 🙂 Perhaps but blowing all the fluff and romance away it was HUGELY empowering for me to realise that if it was my – for want of a better word – fault – then i had the power to change the situation. Constantly blaming outside factors (and yes they do hinder your initial efforts but give me any excuse and there will be hundreds if not thousands of people that have the same issues that have still done it) just prolongs the issue.
By facing up to the truth that if you want something the starting point to getting it is accepting your situation and making the decision to change.
So when i say ‘You can do it’ i really, really mean it – believe that you can do it – push yourself just a little more, be just that tiny bit better with your nutrition, ask for a little help – small, steady steps accepting fully that you are in charge is how i and others i’ve met over the years have made some very big changes.
Your life lies in your hands – don’t bluff yourself into thinking any other way – go for it and if you need ANY help just reach out but be prepared to work!